I feel a lot of affection for a friend at work – could I be in love? | Ask Annalisa Barbieri

Would you want this to become sexual? If the answer is yes, then think about what might be holding you back I don’t know whether I am in love with my friend or not. We hang out a lot, because we work together in the same university. My feelings developed over many months and it took us a long time to fit with each other as we do now. I don’t find him perfect; I sometimes don’t like his behaviour, especially when we are with other people. However, I want to be with him a lot: I imagine going on holiday with him and doing things together. We do have physical contact sometimes – just things like touching arms. I appreciate that and have deep affection for him. So I wonder if this could be love or if I am mistaking great friendship with love just because he is a guy. I do not know whether he is a friend, almost like a brother, or more than that. I thought it was really interesting that you asked if you might be in love with him, rather than if he might be in love with you. I like that ownership. Unless you have only one friend, the fact that you’re asking this means your feelings for him go beyond the obvious “friendly” feelings, or are at least different enough fo